After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you have dreams but feel like they’re not coming true? You may be attracting negative energy from others who don’t believe in you or your goals. Family trauma bonds established subconscious energy blocks from your knowing you are worthy of your dreams.
This article will share with you what the inner work looks like after Narcissistic Abuse and how to magnetize the Law of Attraction for peace and abundance.
“You have the power to make the change in your life. How?? One boundary at a time. One decision at a time. One change of a belief at a time, and it will begin to change in your favor.”
— Dana Sardano Ep 112 Empath and Narcissist Podcast
Today I share a conversation with Dana Sardano, Founder of Ubuntu Fish Gallery Intuitive Lounge, Artist, Author, and Intuitive.
Here are the Key Takeaways:
Narcissistic Family Unit
[12:24] The toxic belief that mothers and fathers get a free pass of their responsibility to own their toxic behavior and abuse on their children. We as a society perpetuate this false belief that:
“Blood is thick than water.”
“But that’s your mother.”
“You’ll never have another mother.”
But the reality is you have to ask yourself, what is my belief? And my belief is that I first and foremost must be well, happy, and whole. Then as a result of that, your relationship and children are well, happy, and whole.
When you evolve as a person, you naturally grow apart from relationships. There is no need to take it personal, or feel it is your fault. And you cannot control the other to change and grow with you. So sometimes you need to mourn the loss of the relationship and move on.
“What happened with my mother and I, when I was in my late thirties, I was miserable. We were able to align. It’s not like she wanted me to be unhappy, but it was a comfort zone for her. And we spoke all the time. And then when I started digging myself out of my, “stinky pile of sh*t” mindset, it started getting uncomfortable between us.
I didn’t understand what was going on at the time. I just thought “Why does my mother suck?”, And then when I got myself to a place where now, I aligned with my husband, who is the beginning and the end, like the guy is really, he’s just absolutely amazing. I started seeing her jealousy and discomfort.” — Dana Sardano [36:14] Ep 112 Empath and Narcissist Podcast
Know yourself
[20:36] If you want to achieve something, you must first understand yourself. What do you really want out of life? How will you make sure you get what you want? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Are there any areas where you need improvement?
Being true to yourself is the single most powerful choice you can make. And as you do these small self care, self discovery exercises that turn into choices when interacting with others, you understand that you’re now worthy to set your own boundaries and stand in your own power. You become with everyone.
Stop listening to the lies of society, your parents, toxic partners who speak and act out of fear, and listen to your heart. Act on what lights you up and watch for the signs from the Universe.
What does the Work look like?
[22:33] The work looks like saying “No” without apology.
For Dana, the work looked like holding her children’s biological father’s feet to the fire and finally saying, “We’re not doing this anymore. Now you get a lawyer.”
The work is telling her mother, “Hey, you know what? You owe me an apology.” And then accepting the consequence of that fallout.
“So the work is knowing your power, knowing your worth, stepping into your power, finding the joy, and continuing doing those things that feel good because you deserve it.”- Dana Sardano Ep 112 Empath and Narcissist podcast
When you do this work and you, heal yourself one layer at a time. And it looks different for every single person, but when we do this, what happens is we begin to misalign with those that are no longer comfortable for us, because we are evolving. You start to repel toxic people versus attract them.
Law of Attraction
[ 26:38] The Law of Attraction says that we attract into our lives whatever we think about most often. This includes people, places, things, and ideas. It also applies to our thoughts and feelings.
The emotions create energy and it becomes like magnets, either repelling or attracting.
“And then people, I call them unicorns, magical people begin to come out of the woodwork that you now align with. So when you start to see your friends start to change, or you start to feel a dissonance with people that you used to be very close to, it’s telling you that even though you may not feel like you’re getting anywhere, you’re getting somewhere.” — Dana Sardano
Be Honest with Yourself
[27:01] It’s easy to tell other people how you think things should go, but when it comes to yourself, you might find it difficult to admit your shortcomings.
However, being honest with yourself is essential to achieving success. When you can sit with the uncomfortable feelings and transmute them, you peel away another layer that you subconsciously built up around your heart. This is the work.
When you are not honest with yourself, you will justify the abuse, perpetuate your own pain, and numb your true desires. Therefore blocking them from ever attracting to you.
“Energy belies everything that you’re saying. So first, we’re gonna be honest with our.” — Dana Sardano
Don’t Let Others Hold You Back
[33:00] It’s easy to let other people hold you back when you’re trying to achieve something big. They might tell you that you can’t do it, or that you’ll never succeed. However, you can overcome these obstacles by taking small steps every day.
Hurt people, hurt people.
Fear compounds more fear.
Lower frequencies of anger, pain, fear, worry, and dissapointment can vibrate, or get stuck in our bodies and subconscious. No matter how hard you try, you continue to attract those frequencies until you release them.
We must shine a light and expose the cracks in our foundation and heal the wounds, then your heart chakra will open up. And all of the things that you’ve done in your life, all of the unhealthy coping mechanisms to protect your heart so you’re not hurt will start to come down. In the emotion code, they call that. The Heart Wall.
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“Those walls begin to come down. And your throat chakra, which is connected to your heart chakra, which is your truth, and your authenticity and your ability to speak and set boundaries and be empowered in that respect is connected to your ability to love without condition. And then what happens?
Your third eye chakra opens up and that’s your ability to see the big picture. Look outside of the pain in which you currently reside. When balance it is your ability to create.
And then your crown chakra opens up and you’re connected to all things. You see the answer to your question.
How do you balance your chakras, embrace, and open up your intuition? You do it by first starting with releasing the pain.” — Dana Sardano Wp 112
Ask for Help
[40:00] If you need help getting started, ask for it. Don’t wait until you’ve hit a wall. Instead, take small steps toward your goal every day. This will give you momentum and keep you motivated. It is quite similar to “Jesus take the wheel”, but in a practical way.
Have you heard the story of a man trapped on his roof?
There was a man who was trapped on his roof due a flood. And he cried out to God, “God save me, help me!” And this guy in a paddle boat came along and said, “Oh, here, hop in the boat!”
And the man said “No, no, I’m waiting for God to rescue me.” And the guy was like, okay. And paddled away.
And then another person came along on a jet ski The man said, “Oh, no thank you, I’m waiting for God to save me.”
He did those three times, and then he screams out to God, “Why haven’t you rescued me yet?”
And God said “I gave you three totally perfect choices to save yourself. Just jump out. I gave you those opportunities to be saved.”
In conclusion, you have dreams but feel like they’re not coming true. The points shared are ways to stop attracting negative energy from others who don’t believe in you or your goals. Release your subconscious energy blocks and know you are worthy of your dreams.
I appreciate you reading, and hope this has given you the information and inspiration of what the inner work looks like after Narcissistic Abuse and how to magnetize the Law of Attraction for peace and abundance.
And remember. Always keep your unique light shining.
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About the Guest
Dana Sardano received her BA in special education in 1993. Specializing in behavioral disorders for children K through 12. In June of 2017, she decided to retire from her career in education an open Ubuntu fish gallery, an artist’s gallery and intuitive lounge in September, 2019. She’s recently written and illustrated a book combined with a workbook for children called Veda Finds her Crown, centered around chakra health and development to help aid teachers and parents who are educating the whole child. And she’s also written the 10 Recommandments for personal empowerment.
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