5 Ways to Gain Back Your Power After Narcissist Abuse | Ep. #13. & 14.

I know the real pain and turmoil this manipulation can inflict on you.  

“Have you felt powerless when relating to another person? “

– Raven Scott
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  5. 5 Powerful Techniques for Increasing Your Vibration to repel the narcissist

1.No contact

[00:00:06] Something so precious stripped from your hands? And their words manipulated the situation so that you felt utterly powerless and a whole crowd of people were against you. And they were backing that scorpion, that Viper and all the while you’re just feeling so gut rents. That you, you felt like you couldn’t take your power back.

[00:00:42] You had lost everything that you loved.

[00:00:48] That was a vision that I had. I woke up weeping and crying because I felt that anger, I [00:01:00] felt the turmoil and I felt despair because in this vision, in this scenario, the vision and the dream that I had was so real and so vivid that something so precious was taken away from me. It was my right.

[00:01:20] It was my joy. I know it was just taken, manipulated out of evil. Backstabbing, it feels horrible to betrayed and it feels even a worse to be betrayed by someone that you thought loved you.

[00:01:48] Raven Scott: I had a vision and this vision involved myself. Having this beautiful brand new newborn baby and [00:02:00] somebody in my life taking her away from me, ripping her away and manipulating the scenario. I think this was so symbolic. To how we feel in our lives and what happens traumatically in the drama of our life and when dealing with a narcissist.

[00:02:20] And in that moment of when I woke, I was weeping and I was crying and I was yelling, I was angry. I felt all of the low, intense, but low vibrational emotions. Have you ever felt that in your real life? I know I have.

And I just wanted to come here to let you know that you are not powerless.

Raven Scott

The number one way to gain your power back is to eradicate that out of your life.

[00:02:53] That person may not deserve you constantly giving way giving and [00:03:00] giving. And they’re constantly taking it’s simple. I know, but yet it’s extremely difficult in practice because they’re using their words to bring you back in and apologize or turn whatever horrible action they’ve done to you into, blaming you for doing it.

[00:03:17] But I just want to say here that you have the power to take back your choices and your self sovereignty. You do not have to be in this situation with this person anymore. You have the right to stop talking to them. You have the right, and you don’t need to feel guilty about. Cutting out communications, breaking up with them, planning a safe, move and exit from if you’re living with them, I’m here to empower you and this vision came to me and I had to just share with you.

[00:03:52] I know the real feeling, but you can, you can conquer it and you can, eradicate them from your life. [00:04:00] That’s number one is no contact. I’m going to share with you two others.

2. Trust Yourself

The other way that you can gain your power back is to trust yourself, trust your gut and trust. Knowing that, you know, The right thing to do and to do it.

[00:04:18]

3. Self Care, self love, self empowerment

Number three, to gain your power back is to self-care love on yourself. Do what your inner child wants to do. That self care is going to give you the confidence and the power to be able to push forward and be strong and powerful to be that inner warrior as Kuan Yin is. To end the suffering in your own life, you need compassion for yourself.

[00:04:50] Those are the three I’m going to share with you today. Two others will be in our, my short videos coming up tomorrow. So don’t miss out, stay tuned. I make sure that [00:05:00] you’re subscribing. I really enjoy having you here and getting to know all of you. Post any questions you have. I will answer them here on the channel.

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Part 2

[00:07:43] Raven Scott: Hey, I’m back. Raven, Scott here, sharing with you how to gain your power back after being emotionally abused. And yesterday I shared with you three ways to do that. And today I’m going to share two more and then summarize all five of them. So [00:08:00] the fourth way to gain your power back .

4. Draw Boundaries

The fourth way is to draw boundaries and actively say ‘NO”. Quit that people pleasing that old bad habit that’s inside your gut because you’re making sure there’s no drama and everyone’s okay around you. That’s not going to happen. There’s always going to be drama. Whether people are. So stop people pleasing say no.

[00:08:27]

5. Not care how they react

And the a fifth way to gain your power. IS to not care how they react, do not care how they react, because it is not your responsibility. It is their responsibility on how they react. You don’t have to feel guilty. You don’t have to backpedal because they’re upset. That’s on them. Okay. So hold tight.

[00:08:51] So to summarize my friends to gain back your power. Number one is to go no contact [00:09:00] and or find a safe strategy to leave. Number two is to gain your confidence through working and elevating your self worth. Number three is to have compassion for yourself and become the true warrior that you are inside.

[00:09:16] Number four is to draw boundaries and to actively say no. And number five is to not care. don’t own their emotional reaction. this is Raven Scott here. I feel like me and you like these tips, subscribe to this channel for more inspirational, relatable tips.

How to master your boundaries:

  • Envision yourself saying NO
  • Feel the power of your self sovereignty
  • Dream of yourself saying NO
  • Step into your courage, pushing through fear, and taking action to say NO.
  • Be detached with the others emotional response (which may be like a child’s temper tantrum)

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when you are controlled by a narcissist you will never reach your true potential as a beautiful human being. There is hope though! You are here to elevate the collective and evolve in your souls journey. The dark egoistic people are drawn to your empathic light – like a moth to the light.

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