A People Pleasers Worst Nightmare | Ep. 15

Narcissists leave you high and dry in jail. with Amanda Acker 

If I could tell my 17 year old self advice I know now, it would be to trust yourself.”

– Amanda Acker
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How to Embrace your Queen Energy and Shed the Narcissist's Control with Lady Portia Empath And The Narcissist: Healing Guide from Abuse and PTSD

"Don’t give two shits about what anybody else thinks dance to the beat of your own drum. " – Marcus Hunter NeilLearn how to rid yourself of the toxic narcissist in your life and step up into your own queen power. Today I share a conversation with Marcus Hunter Neil pioneer drag queen Lady Portia Instagram: https://instagram.com/ladypandme (@ladypandme) Marcus is a MindValleys Irish Ambassador, Coach, TedTalker, Podcaster, Pioneer Drag Queen, Ambassador for the NSPCC Here are some key moments: Being with a narcissist is like Grey Gardens pretending to be glitterati while you’re living in a dilapidated house. “ No one sets out to actively be a narcissist and the victim of a narcissist. It just happens.“ It's the narcissists personality. Be your own wing man, defend yourself and take no mistreatment Relationship should be a want not a need No matter how much self work you do if you and the other person are not a fit you are not a fit Know your values know your worth. Because if you don’t have standards then you will shape shift for whomever you’re with. Do not put anybody even royalty on a pedestal because we are all human beings at the end of the day Here’s a test exercise can you list five things that you love about your narcissistic partner? if not then you are stuck in a scenario in the wrong environment and you’re making excuses each day as to why you will not break up with them.  Love yourself radically. Be secure enough in your own skin no matter what happens when you come out on the other side it will all be fine.  https://the-thriving-intuitive.captivate.fm/https-bit-ly-3xjlfvb (Trauma 2 Triumph FREE Ticket) Follow and DM me http://intagram.com/ravencottshow (@ravencottshow )"free gift" to get your FREE Draw Powerful Boundaries Workshop Better Help : https://betterhelp.com/empath (Empath get 10% off your first month) Empath & The Narcissist https://ravenscott.show/empath-and-the-narcissist (Book) : Support the Show Get Human Design Reading:https://ravenscott.show/shop ( SHOP ) Grab coaching sessions and more FREE Gifts on the website http://Ravenscott.show/blog (Ravenscott.show) Madhvi – https://madhvi.ca (Emotion Code FREE Inquiry Call) Music YouTube Library: Til I Let Go by Neffex Mentioned in this episode: Trauma 2 Triumph Summit https://the-thriving-intuitive.captivate.fm/https-bit-ly-3xjlfvb (Trauma 2 Triumph FREE Ticket)
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The choices we make due to the narcissist’s peer pressure can be devastating.

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Codependent : characterized by excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction.

“you go with her all the time because you’re a little codependent”

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1. Let Good Things In Show [3:09]

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[00:09:27] Amanda Acker: Exactly. Like I was just talking about this the other day. I was looking at my dream. As a child was to be a school teacher. But for some reason, when I went to college, it’s not what I chose to major. And now I did choose that after the fact, but my first initial experience was criminal justice and I wanted to be a probation officer and I wanted to help people.

[00:09:48] And I didn’t know why back then. And I think that if. Yeah. If I would’ve had me now to tell me back, then just stay on this path and to listen to myself and to not allow [00:10:00] others to influence me so much that my life would have been drastically different than it is.

[00:10:06] Raven Scott: Absolutely. That’s the hardest part. I think for a lot of us who are highly sensitive, who are empaths or even just kind of good kind of people that get suckered into the vortex of narcissists is we just get kind of blown off.

[00:11:20] Amanda Acker: Yeah. I mean, there’s a lot in my past, , people who influenced me in a negative way, but before I go through that, I will say that these were all my choices. So even though I was influenced. I have the choice to say no, and I chose not to. Right. So I

[00:11:39] Raven Scott: a fork in the road. Choose to go left or right.

[00:11:41] Amanda Acker: Yeah. And I always went left.

as a young child, like my mother, , me and her are very close now, so everything’s good there, but. She kept me in this bubble. Like if I could make friends, like they were weird, or if, you know, someone invited me to spend [00:12:00] the night, it would be no. Or if I wanted friends to come over, like I was, I always felt like having friends was almost wrong.

[00:12:07] and she made me feel like that, that innate guilt for choosing to go out and be with my friends rather than stay home and spend time with her. So I think that kind of instilled something in my brain as a child and moving forward in life, I tended to attract friendships and men and all kinds of different things.

2.The mother’s compassion shapes the way we accept love. [12:31]

the Dalai Lama talks about the mother has the biggest, most important role in showing their child compassion.

And however, the mother loves. And that’s why I’m so keen on being careful how I love my children and what I say, like not to control them is because I see myself as trying to model. Who I would want them to marry and it better be how I act, because it’s like, , if you have a distant mother, you somehow get attracted to a partner who’s distant with you emotionally, if you have, like you said, like a narcissistic mother, you always are, you’re, you’re attracted to a narcissistic or super selfish partner.

[00:14:43] But he (father) wasn’t an emotionally available, man. He still isn’t. , for me, at least, I don’t know what it’s like for his new wife and new daughter, but you know, for me, I didn’t feel a connection there. So I saw my mom struggle with. You know, on top of her, the way she [00:15:00] was. And I’m also seeing her being treated, , with this emotional disregard, you know, so I thought that was normal.

“even just kind of good kind of people that get suckered into the vortex of narcissists is we just get kind of blown off.”

Raven Scott

3. Where would you be if you chose a different path? [20:58]

I would have, , kept my head down in a book and studied and graduated college at the top of my class and led a career.

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4. People pleaser loose when they take the easy road. [23:15]

[00:22:31] , but you know, yeah, maybe that would have been where I’d be at. Maybe I’d be, you know, traveling the world and speaking and helping, you know, people who. We’re going through some, like the hardest times of their lives, like getting convicted of a crime or even being arrested in general is by far the I mean, I’ve been through some crap and that was the scariest thing I’ve ever been through.

[00:22:54] , getting your freedom taken from you. And being who I was [00:23:00] back then, you know, I never been in trouble before I got, I didn’t even get detention, not once in my entire life.

[00:23:05] Raven Scott: You were a good girl, people pleaser, make sure everyone was taken care of.

[00:23:09] Amanda Acker: That’s what I was trying to do in that moment too. I just wanted to keep everyone else happy and we needed money and drugs, were at play too.

[00:23:15] So I was seduced by this chaotic lifestyle that I wound up in. And I remember thinking I’m being arrested in that moment. Like how did I end up here? How did I get here and how am I going to get myself out of this?

So I was seduced by this chaotic lifestyle that I wound up in. And I remember thinking I’m being arrested in that moment. Like how did I end up here?

And I was looking for a week when I got arrested. I remember, okay. Like I have no money. I smell. So everyone’s gonna think I’m a homeless person, which I was at that point, you know? And it was horrifying.

Amanda Acker

5. Your life experience prepares you for your purpose. [26:01]

You wouldn’t have the true life experience and empathy to relate to people who you are passionate about helping now, you would have not gone to jail.

6. North Node Return at 37 ignites your soul. [28:01]

“That’s where your soul’s yearning and purpose gets ignited. – Raven

That is so interesting because I just turned 38. So last year was when I had that breakthrough ” – Amanda

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What choices are you making right now? Are you trusting yourself??? comment below.
There is one thing I know… is this.

when you are controlled by a narcissist you will never reach your true potential as a beautiful human being. There is hope though! You are here to elevate the collective and evolve in your souls journey. The dark egoistic people are drawn to your empathic light – like a moth to the light.

If you resonate this is why we have formed a brand new Soul Collective community on Patreon. 

We have a lot of fun, support each other, and learn tools for perseverance in this souls assignment. 

There are 2 reasons why we believe you will love this community, 1. It’s safe and full of purpose seekers and empaths. 2. You won’t feel alone anymore.

So join us in the link in the show notes and help support my work and your soul, as you gain new besties. 

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Raven Scott is providing women, who are feeling lost and alone in their journey, a community to kick ass as we become empowered together while healing from childhood trauma, abusive relationships, or plain old life, and awaken to rewrite our karmic story. Through astrology, self care, human design, & intuition.
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