How to Stop the Suffering Cycle from Narcissist Abuse | Ep. 12

Mantra for Relief from Emotional Abuse Pain  

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– Raven Scott
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12. How to Stop Stress Cycle From Narcissist Abuse

Stop the cycle of stress and reinvigorate your life.

1.Have compassion for yourself

Kuan Yin is the Buddhist bodhisattva and embodiment of compassion. “She who Hears the Cries of the Word.”

Five years ago I was introduced to this magnificent symbol of enlightenment during my time running my interior design business. As soon as I saw “her” I was in love. I knew she was a part of me, an essence of the greater purpose my soul was yearning for.

Suffering surrounds us in this world and is intertwined with living, love, and compassion.

“The ultimate journey of a human being is to discover how much our hearts can encompass. Our capacity to cause suffering as well as to heal suffering live side by side within us. If we choose to develop the capacity to heal, which the challenge of every human life, we will find our hearts can encompass a great deal and we can learn t o heal- rather t Han increase- the schisms that divide us from one another.”

Kuan Yin is an armed warrior, profoundly dedicated to protecting all beings, fearless and resolved to bring suffering to an end.

You are on a journey. And that is to find compassion for yourself. In order to fight bravely for your mind, your freedom, and your relief.

“some people, carrying long histories of lack of self-worth or denial, find it most difficult to extend compassion toward themselves. Aware of the vastness of suffering in the world, they may feel it is self-indulgent to care for their aching body, their broken heart, or their confused mind. Yet this too is suffering and genuine compassion makes no distinction between self and other. If we do not know how to embrace our own frailties and imperfections, how do we imagine we could find room in our heart for anyone else?

“The buddha once said that you could search the whole world and not find anyone more deserving of your love and compassion than yourself.”

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In order for emotional relief you must learn to say ‘No” to circumstances that do not feel right to your body and intuition. Your mind will justify you into pleasing that person. I know first hand this concept is easier said than done.

How to master your boundaries:

  • Envision yourself saying NO
  • Feel the power of your self sovereignty
  • Dream of yourself saying NO
  • Step into your courage, pushing through fear, and taking action to say NO.
  • Be detached with the others emotional response (which may be like a child’s temper tantrum)

2. How to stop the cycle – No contact / partial no contact

When dealing with an extremely selfish person who is trying to manipulate the situation in their favor, to stop the vicious carousel ride, you must stop engaging in their arguments. They pull you in with guilt and feeling sad for them, but once you are in their scheme, they can turn on you in a second. They are operating at a selfish child emotional level.

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All you can control is yourself, you cannot control the conversation or situation as well as them, because you are not that type of person. So in order to stop the craziness, and gain relief, you must stop talking to them. Stop responding to texts, stop reaching out to apologize because they are mad at you and not talking to you back. They love drama, their ego thrives on drama, so you must remove the spotlight from their drama. And the cycle will stop.

What if I cannot cut them out of my because I have a loved one in their life? or share custody?

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If you co parent or have a dependent sibling in their custody, this is where partial no contact comes into play. You may have heard grey rock, essential act like an emotional rock. Don’t mimic their excitement, don’t buy into their stories. Simply say hello, and do not engage in conversation with them, and be there for your sibling or carry out the drop off or pickup with aloof interaction. If they try and probe, or pull at your emotions, stay emotionally disassociated and respond to them with one word answers that are not leading.

  • ” If you could change just one thing in your life right now, what would it be? drop it in the comments below.

Because, what I know is that with each day of no contact, you heal, and are on your path to recovery.

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There is one thing I know… is this.

when you are controlled by a narcissist you will never reach your true potential as a beautiful human being. There is hope though! You are here to elevate the collective and evolve in your souls journey. The dark egoistic people are drawn to your empathic light – like a moth to the light.

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