Reclaim Your Freedom and Happiness after Narcissistic Abuse

You, dear Empath, are a special individual, blessed with the remarkable ability to feel and understand the emotions of others. While this gift allows you to connect deeply with people, it can also become overwhelming and burdensome if not managed properly or connected to a person with negative energy. In this blog, we will explore how you can claim your freedom and happiness back by taking care of yourself, focusing on your healing, and embracing their unique qualities through mindset reframe. You will be introduced by our guest to the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, Wim Hoff, and Byron Katie, all which drastically molded me during my healing journey from narcissistic abuse.

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Self-Awareness: Understand Your Gift

The first step towards reclaiming your freedom and happiness as an empath is to fully understand and accept your gift. Empathy is a beautiful trait that allows you to forge meaningful connections with others, but it’s essential to recognize that it’s not a weakness. Embracing your empathic nature is a crucial part of your journey towards self-discovery.

You just need to bolster your guard up against people who are self centered and are not empathic like you. This is a daily exercise to do, just like going to the gym.

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Just the other day I wasted my morning on someone who was not respectful of my time. And grant it, I didn’t respect my time either. I should have asked a qualifying question to know if I should have taken the time out of my creative schedule. And then as I sat there and they kept talking about things I have no idea about, I was intrigued, yet couldn’t help but feel it was just all smoke and mirrors. And after an hour and a half, I got nowhere and nothing out of the adventure I needed to compensate my time, and I felt so tired and drained after.

It’s ok to ask questions to guard yourself and then if that answer shows you, you shouldn’t invest, then don’t be afraid to say no, decline the invite, or whatever you need to do to protect your sweet empath light.

This example cost me just 4 hours out of my day, but I do know some of you are experience the cost of years in a toxic relationship. Costing you your health, other relationships, time, sanity, and even wealth. It all gets drained and you are left with nothing after the Narcissist is done with you and discards you.

Self-Care: Prioritize Your Well-being

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Empaths often prioritize the needs and feelings of others over their own, just as you witnessed in my experience above. In order to claim your freedom and happiness, it’s imperative to make self-care a top priority. This includes setting aside time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit, such as meditation, journaling, exercise, or simply spending time in nature. By taking care of yourself, you will have more emotional energy to share with others.

One that is interesting is the Wim Hof Method is a holistic health and wellness technique developed by Wim Hof, a Dutch extreme athlete also known as “The Iceman.” This method combines three main components: cold exposure, controlled breathing, and meditation/mindfulness. It is designed to improve physical and mental well-being, increase energy, reduce stress, and enhance overall resilience.

Here’s an overview of each component of the Wim Hof Method and how it can contribute to well-being:

Cold Exposure: The cornerstone of the Wim Hof Method is the exposure to cold environments, such as taking cold showers or ice baths. Proponents of the method believe that regularly subjecting the body to cold helps improve circulation, boost the immune system, and increase energy levels. Cold exposure is thought to activate the body’s “brown fat,” which burns calories to generate heat, and it may also reduce inflammation.

Controlled Breathing: The method includes a specific breathing technique, often referred to as “Wim Hof breathing.” This technique involves a series of deep inhalations and exhalations, typically done in cycles. The goal is to oxygenate the body, alkalize the blood, and reduce the body’s stress response. This controlled breathing may lead to increased focus, reduced anxiety, and a feeling of relaxation.

Meditation and Mindfulness: The Wim Hof Method incorporates meditation and mindfulness practices. These aspects help individuals become more aware of their body and mind, and they can aid in reducing stress and promoting mental clarity. Mindfulness is a well-known approach for improving emotional well-being and overall mental health.

While many practitioners of the Wim Hof Method report various benefits, it’s essential to understand that scientific research on this method is ongoing, and its effectiveness may vary from person to person. Some studies suggest that the method may indeed offer health benefits, such as improved immune function, reduced inflammation, and increased resilience to cold exposure. However, more research is needed to validate these claims and better understand the underlying mechanisms.

As with any wellness or health practice, it’s advisable to consult with a healthcare professional before starting the Wim Hof Method, especially if you have underlying medical conditions. If you decide to explore this method, it’s essential to learn it from a qualified instructor to ensure you’re performing the techniques correctly and safely.

Another more mental wellness exercise is one of forgiveness and gratitude. Give yourself grace, forgive yourself for not seeing the signs. You did not know, but now you do. Forgive yourself for being afraid and staying too long. We all have our timing in life. My favorite negative energy cleanser is the ancient Ho o’ pono pono prayer. Dr. Joe Dispenza is who introduced me, and the World, to this meditation/mantra and it is a powerful ancient Hawaiian prayer.

Practice the prayer with me on YouTube

“If you are carrying hatred towards someone else is like drinking poison expecting the other to die.”

Dr. Tara Perry S6 Ep 12 Empath Rising podcast

Set Boundaries: Protect Your Energy

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One of the biggest challenges for empaths is setting boundaries. Learning to say no when necessary and establishing clear limits in your relationships is vital for your well-being. While it might feel uncomfortable initially, remember that boundaries are essential for maintaining a healthy balance in your life. Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries and support your journey.

Remember, don’t care how they react. And if they react negatively, then that is a sign they don’t respect you or your boundaries. 


Self-Reflection: Practice Mindfulness

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Empaths often absorb the emotions and energy of those around them, which can lead to emotional exhaustion. To reclaim your happiness, practice mindfulness regularly. Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings, and learn to differentiate between your own emotions and those of others.

This is why I share about Human Design. It is your blueprint for how you absorb emotions and experience energies. If you have a white Solar Plexus, you are more like a sponge and need to shield yourself and be mindful not to take on the responsibility for others’ emotions. If you have a colored in Solar Plexus Center, (bottom right triangle in your chart), you then need to be mindful of your emotions you are emitting out into the world. You are less prone to be conditioned by others emotions, however if there is a stronger emotional person in your sphere you will still feel the impact as the open / white Solar Plexus being. 

Grab your free Human Design chart at

Mindfulness can help you stay grounded and in control of your emotional state. And brush off the emotional state of others, aka the Narcissist.

Seek Support: Connect with Fellow Empaths

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What you focus on is what you attract

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are correct.”

Shifting the focus about what is resourceful, talented, about you. Water the plant in order to grow. Feed your talents to grow and thrive. Feeling isolated is a common experience for empaths. It’s crucial to connect with others who share similar experiences. Joining support groups or online communities for empaths can provide a sense of belonging and offer valuable insights on how to navigate the challenges of being highly empathic. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can be incredibly liberating.

Embrace Your Strengths: Celebrate Your Empathic Gifts

Rather than viewing your empathy as a burden, recognize it as a unique and powerful gift. Empaths possess a deep capacity for compassion, understanding, and love. Embrace your strengths and use them to make a positive impact on the world. By celebrating your empathic nature, you can find purpose and fulfillment in helping others.

Recommended Books:

Loving What is by Byron Katie

The Gap and Gain by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy


As an empath, your journey to claim a freer and happier life begins with self-awareness and self-care. By understanding your gift, setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, seeking support, and celebrating your unique qualities, you can harness the power of empathy to create a more balanced and fulfilling life. Remember, your well-being is just as important as the well-being of others, and it’s okay to prioritize yourself on this incredible journey of self-discovery. Embrace your empathic nature, and watch as you bloom into a happier and more liberated version of yourself.

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Published by Raven Scott Nguyen

Raven Scott Nguyen is a passionate advocate for self-empowerment and authentic living, dedicated to helping individuals break free from the chains of narcissistic abuse. With a profound understanding of the human psyche and a deep commitment to personal growth, Raven is the author of "Empath & The Narcissist: Overcoming Gaslighting and Manipulation." This groundbreaking book offers a transformative roadmap for survivors of narcissistic abuse, guiding them towards a life filled with happiness and authenticity healing PTSD, and Trauma from abuse. Drawing from extensive knowledge of Human Design, energy healing, and empathic abilities, Raven is also the author of "Empath's Guide to Rising Strong" a powerful guide that delves into the intricacies of Human Design to help empaths harness their unique energies for self-empowerment and healing. As an empath who has journeyed through the depths of narcissistic abuse, Raven is deeply committed to empowering fellow empaths on their healing journey. With a profound understanding of the emotional landscapes empaths navigate. Raven is the host and producer of "Empaths Rising: Healing with Human Design" This podcast serves as a beacon of hope and transformation, offering practical guidance and insights for those seeking to reclaim their lives and live authentically. Raven is a passionate advocate for shadow work, self-care Moon rituals, and Human Design, and is dedicated to guiding individuals towards a life of self-empowerment and inner peace. With a compassionate heart and a wealth of knowledge, Raven continues to inspire and uplift others on their path to healing and self-discovery through her blog at

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