How to Calm your Anxiety from Abuse With the Power of Nature and Crystals

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Due to the energy this week with so many planets opposing and the new moon eclipse, and a lot of anxiety being stirred up due to healing from Narcissistic abuse and the chaos of the negativity in the World, I am writing this blog to give you some tools to help calm yourself.

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Empath Rising Finding Peace Amid Relationship War.

Empaths Absorption

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You, dear empath, possess an extraordinary ability to feel and absorb the emotions of others around you, even of the collective society on the whole. And often, if you are not aware of this, it can be detrimental and even stress inducing and illness inducing in our bodies. 

Then, coupled with that, you have a Narcissist in your life. In the form of a relationship, or shared custody drama. Even if you are not even in contact with them, there is still trauma that you’re healing from and all that entails with that type of relationship.

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So there’s this heightened sensitivity when you leave or even if you’re still dealing with them, but let’s just talk about if you’re not with them. You still have a severe anxiety and emotional turmoil.

It’s not talked about often enough, that the next relationship after an abusive narcissistic relationship takes a toll from the past relationship. It is not easy and it is not ‘all of a sudden you float off into the sunset and the Narcissist is gone.’ The trail of the conditioning of their abuse and that turmoil follows you into the next relationship. Your nervous system is still not fully healed. 

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I can personally attest that I almost was ready to call it quits in my own next relationship after I left my abusive partner. There was still so much trapped in my psyche and my emotions that takes time to flush out. 

 Sometimes even our healthy relationships can be anxiety causing because it triggers up old wounds and things from our childhood. The new partner will do things that remind you of what the Narcissist did, but they’re not really doing what the Narcissist did, especially if you were with a covert Narcissist, and you rear back and overreact because your psyche revisits the abusive conditioning from the past. 


Connecting with Nature

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Nature has a remarkable ability to soothe and heal the soul. Almost all of my fondest memories are not in the city, they’re out in nature. On a lake or in a forest and every time that I feel anxious or confused I walk over to the lake near my house.

Spending time in nature can be especially therapeutic. Have you seen that movie On Netflix called, Happiness for Beginners. It’s about a school teacher was seeking for a fresh new start. And, she ended up finding love, even though she was not looking for love, and that love actually was an old friend from her life, and I won’t spoil any more of the movie, but it was amazing.


And it just reminded me of that going out in nature, gives us a fresh breath. Nature can bring about spiritual experiences in nature because it’s so quiet, because it actually does connect us to our intuition and to the spirit within ourselves.

One thing that you can do is go hiking, but be careful that you are safe. Make sure you have all the proper supplies, a guide. Don’t go hiking by yourself.

Forest Bathing

Shinrin yoku, or forest bathing, is a Japanese practice of immersing yourself in nature, particularly in forests. The gentle, mindful experience of walking among trees can help you ground yourself and find your inner peace.

Trees are majestic, trees are calming, and trees are all knowing and wise. They’ve been here for multi generations, and so they are very peaceful, very calming, and they can help ground you into the wisdom.


Meditation in a natural setting by a body of water would be very grounding.

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Find a quiet spot in a park if you don’t have a big body of water near you. Near a river or a lake or even by the ocean if you’re lucky enough. Sit or lie down close your eyes and focus on the sounds, smells, and sensations around you. Nature’s tranquility can bring balance to your hormones and ease your anxiety.


And earthing, one of my favorite ways also to connect with nature is to walk barefoot on the earth. 

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Whether it’s grass, sand, or soil, it will not hurt you. It is good for you. Mother Earth is taking what is in your body and energetically pulling it out through your feet. Your feet actually have the most nerve ending transmitters, called meridians.

It’s important to just ease your feet into the earth. Allow her to take it and compost whatever is ailing you. Whatever is negative in your body. She can handle it. Let go and let it go down. Connect into the earth’s energy. And this will provide you a sense of stability and calm. This is a great daily practice if you’re dealing with a lot of anxiety through your healing process.



Harnessing crystals have been used for centuries. Literally, more than even centuries.

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Multi thousand years ago, in a land known as Lemuria, they were very connected to crystals and their healing powers and properties. Lemuria would be the landmass, that is now under the ocean. It used to be above the ocean before the disastrous calamity of a giant volcano and earthquake sunk it into the ocean.

Crystals are from the Earth and have healing powers. That’s not really a scientific way to prove it to you.

I know you may wonder how a little piece of colored rock can help you emotionally heal and help you through your spiritual growth. They do help balance your energy centers.


The amethyst is known as the Stone of Tranquility.

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It also is a stone of your intuition, your third eye, and it helps soothe anxiety and stress. So you can keep a piece of amethyst in your pocket. You could wear it as a jewelry.

Having it anywhere on you or on a, um, as a bracelet around your wrist, amethysts are very soothing, very healing, and they connect you to your deeper wisdom. And we know anxiety is not deep wisdom. Anxiety is the mind chatter. This stone can help you soothe that anxiety.

Black Tourmaline

This black tourmaline is a powerful protective stone. 

You can also use obsidian. 

It is a protective power that shields from negative energy. If you need to interact with somebody who is negative then have this on your body. Place it in your home to guard you from negativity, and bad spirits.

Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz, the stone of love and compassion. 

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Rose Quartz can help empaths strengthen your self love, your self care practices. So meditating by gazing upon a rose quartz to open up your heart chakra is a really great practical way to use rose quartz.


Selenite is an excellent crystal for cleansing and clearing your energy field.

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So use a selenite wand to gently sweep your aura and release any negative energy.

As an empath healing from the effects of a narcissistic abusive relationship. Remember that your sensitivity is a gift. It’s not a weakness.

 Your unguarded open centers, are your areas for growth. You can learn more about your centers in Human Design on the podcast. And once you are aware, then you have power over that “weakness”.

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By incorporating these spiritual tools into your daily life, connecting with nature, harnessing the energy of the crystals, and practicing self care, you can calm your anxiety, protect your energy, and embark on a journey of healing and self discovery.

Remember to embrace your inner strength and resilience as you move towards a brighter, more empowered future in the next chapter that this New Moon eclipse brings us in Libra on October 14th.

And remember, always keep your unique light shining.

 — Raven Nguyen Scott 

Author, Podcaster, Spiritual Mentor

Published by Raven Scott Nguyen

Raven Scott Nguyen is a passionate advocate for self-empowerment and authentic living, dedicated to helping individuals break free from the chains of narcissistic abuse. With a profound understanding of the human psyche and a deep commitment to personal growth, Raven is the author of "Empath & The Narcissist: Overcoming Gaslighting and Manipulation." This groundbreaking book offers a transformative roadmap for survivors of narcissistic abuse, guiding them towards a life filled with happiness and authenticity healing PTSD, and Trauma from abuse. Drawing from extensive knowledge of Human Design, energy healing, and empathic abilities, Raven is also the author of "Empath's Guide to Rising Strong" a powerful guide that delves into the intricacies of Human Design to help empaths harness their unique energies for self-empowerment and healing. As an empath who has journeyed through the depths of narcissistic abuse, Raven is deeply committed to empowering fellow empaths on their healing journey. With a profound understanding of the emotional landscapes empaths navigate. Raven is the host and producer of "Empaths Rising: Healing with Human Design" This podcast serves as a beacon of hope and transformation, offering practical guidance and insights for those seeking to reclaim their lives and live authentically. Raven is a passionate advocate for shadow work, self-care Moon rituals, and Human Design, and is dedicated to guiding individuals towards a life of self-empowerment and inner peace. With a compassionate heart and a wealth of knowledge, Raven continues to inspire and uplift others on their path to healing and self-discovery through her blog at

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