Narcissists agendas always goes first before others needs.
If you have an open will and are unconscious about it. It’s like keeping the back door open for the Narcissist to come and steal.
If you know you have the ability to amplify other’s agendas, then you can take practical measures to lock that door.
For example, do not engage in the conversation.
Stop talking to them.
Write down on a notepad, “no” and read it if you have to.
Block the narcissist from weaseling their way into selling you on their desires that end up hurting you.
It’s your time to learn your lessons and stop helping them.
Sometimes helping others actually hurts them.