Overcoming a Painful Past of Narcissistic Abuse| S5 Ep 5

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Finding Strength in Weakness; A difficult past can seem like an insurmountable mountain to climb over. But you don’t have to stay stuck in the mud of your painful experiences. Find strength and rise above with tips from this article!

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It can be hard to leave the past behind. Whether it’s negative experiences, hurtful relationships, or painful memories, a difficult past can keep you feeling stuck and struggling with low self-esteem. But it’s possible to learn from the past and use your experiences to become better, stronger, and more resilient.

“ Two of our primary needs are love and belonging. What do you think happens to those needs? When we hide, we don’t get either one of them in any.” — Dr. Donna Tashjina S5Ep5 Empath and Narcissist podcast [7:46]

Take Steps to Cope with the Pain.

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When remembering your past, it’s important to establish healthy coping strategies and prioritize self-care. Find activities that can help you to process the pain, such as writing down your thoughts or talking through them with a therapist or a support group. It may also be helpful to practice relaxation techniques such as mediation or deep breathing. Additionally, engaging in enjoyable activities like physical activity, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones can encourage positive growth and healing.

I found so many amazing coping and healing practices that I share in my book Empath and the Narcissist: How to overcome narcissistic abuse, and recover from PTSD, codependency, gaslighting, manipulation. A guide to heal from childhood trauma with effective exercises and how to live as your true self with human design 101.

Talk about Your Struggles with People You Trust.

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It’s important to remember that you don’t have to tackle your difficult experiences alone. Talk to people who you trust — whether it’s a close family member, a friend, or a professional therapist. Having strong support systems in place can help ease the burden and make it easier to process traumatic events. Expressing emotions and thoughts with someone who understands can be liberating and empowering; realizing that your struggles have been experienced by others can give you permission to move forward.

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Set Boundaries with Recurring Stressors in Your Life.

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It’s easy to become trapped in stressful and emotionally draining relationships with family members, friends, or even co-workers. Setting boundaries is an essential first step to gaining control back over your life. Acknowledge what you can and cannot change in the situation, voice your needs clearly and consistently, and don’t be afraid to speak up when someone crosses a line you’ve set for yourself. With practice, you’ll gain the confidence to stand up for what’s important to you — which is liberating!

So how can you overcome that fear of not being loved and accepted just cause you have a different opinion?

“More that I can be comfortable in my own skin and who I am and what I like, then I don’t have to have you to like everything about me. because at the end of the day, I like me, but when we are focused on I need to go outside of me to be able to like myself, if we’re always looking for other people to meet needs, someone will always, not like it.” — Dr. Donna Tashjian S5Ep Empath and the Narcissist podcast [14:15]

Create a Self-Care Routine of Activities to Help You Manage Stressful Situations

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Design a self-care routine that nourishes you emotionally, mentally and physically. Aim to incorporate activities that help you relax and are uplifting at the same time, like exercising, doing yoga, journaling, reading, and listening to music. Understanding what helps you cope with stress will make it more difficult for your painful past to weigh on your life, giving you the energy and strength to persevere.

“Julia Roberts in one of the last scenes (of Runaway Bride) she kept running away from relationships and in the last scene, she’s sitting in a restaurant and she’s got five or six kinds of eggs in front of her. She’s got a scrambled egg and a fried egg and a egg benedict and you know, an omelet and, over-easy and poached and anyway, all these different kinds of eggs.

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And someone says to her, what are you doing? She’s like, when I was with Fred, I like this kind. When I was with Ralph, I like this kind. When I was with Joe, I like, I ate these kind of eggs. I wanna know what Julia likes. And I love that because so many of the times, , uh, life even. We don’t have time for ourselves. What do I really want and what do I really like? Does that resonate?” — Dr. Donna Tashjian S5Ep5 Empath and Narcissist podcast [11:10]

“That’s another part of that journaling is — who do I wanna be? Do I wanna be the person that always recoils. I can disagree with that loud, boisterous person without ever even saying anything. “ [16:14] — Dr. Donna Tashjian

Establish Healthy Relationships and Connections With Positive Influences

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Surrounding yourself with positive external influences can help reduce the amount of pain and struggle you must face. Spend time with people who genuinely care about you and make sure to ask for support when needed. Speak openly and honestly, as sharing your experience can be powerful in helping you heal and find closure. Not only that, but connecting with other people will provide a feeling of belonging while spreading love,helping you work towards an even brighter future.

“Who do I wanna be? Because who you wanna be is who you really are. It’s just gotta let her out. Just gotta let her out and let her shine.” Dr. Donna Tashjian [17:12]

The past does not define you nor does it help you in present and future

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“Your past does not have to define you unless you let it.” -Dr Donna Tashjian 19:15

“Are you looking out of the windshield, which is forward thinking, or are you looking in the rear view mirror? And if you are thinking about driving your car down the road looking in the rear view mirror, how far would you get?.” Dr. Donna Tashjian [19:27]

How can you build your confidence to overcome your abuse and past? 

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Confidence is a capability that is built over time. not something you magically feel,” Dr. Donna Tashjian S5Ep5 Empath and Narcissist podcast [23:18]

I would answer: 

  • Focusing on your self love
  • Fill your head with emotional intelligence material
  • Get your body moving 
  • Repeat empowering affirmations
  • Journal out all your doubts and worries 
  • THEN burn them and release to the Universe 
  • Meditate and connect to your Soul self 
  • Practice having difficult conversations with healthy safe people 
  • Reply with any I missed and what your favorite way to build your confidence and emotional intelligence! 

If you love podcasts and want to listen to my conversation and the amazing gems of wisdom from Dr. Donna Tashjian. 

Listen today! 

And remember. Keep your unique light shining.

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