Empaths! The Truth you NEED to know about Consequences of People Pleasing! | S3 Ep 39

The truth you need to hear are the consequences of people pleasing.

“Women young and old, you are a bad ass! No matter what you think you are beautiful, you are unique and powerful. Thank yourself in your body for how spiritual it is and own your own self sovereignty. ”

– Raven Scott
Photo by Moose Photos on Pexels.com

Listen to Podcast

How to Embrace your Queen Energy and Shed the Narcissist's Control with Lady Portia Empath And The Narcissist: Healing Guide from Abuse and PTSD

"Don’t give two shits about what anybody else thinks dance to the beat of your own drum. " – Marcus Hunter NeilLearn how to rid yourself of the toxic narcissist in your life and step up into your own queen power. Today I share a conversation with Marcus Hunter Neil pioneer drag queen Lady Portia Instagram: https://instagram.com/ladypandme (@ladypandme) Marcus is a MindValleys Irish Ambassador, Coach, TedTalker, Podcaster, Pioneer Drag Queen, Ambassador for the NSPCC Here are some key moments: Being with a narcissist is like Grey Gardens pretending to be glitterati while you’re living in a dilapidated house. “ No one sets out to actively be a narcissist and the victim of a narcissist. It just happens.“ It's the narcissists personality. Be your own wing man, defend yourself and take no mistreatment Relationship should be a want not a need No matter how much self work you do if you and the other person are not a fit you are not a fit Know your values know your worth. Because if you don’t have standards then you will shape shift for whomever you’re with. Do not put anybody even royalty on a pedestal because we are all human beings at the end of the day Here’s a test exercise can you list five things that you love about your narcissistic partner? if not then you are stuck in a scenario in the wrong environment and you’re making excuses each day as to why you will not break up with them.  Love yourself radically. Be secure enough in your own skin no matter what happens when you come out on the other side it will all be fine.  https://the-thriving-intuitive.captivate.fm/https-bit-ly-3xjlfvb (Trauma 2 Triumph FREE Ticket) Follow and DM me http://intagram.com/ravencottshow (@ravencottshow )"free gift" to get your FREE Draw Powerful Boundaries Workshop Better Help : https://betterhelp.com/empath (Empath get 10% off your first month) Empath & The Narcissist https://ravenscott.show/empath-and-the-narcissist (Book) : Support the Show Get Human Design Reading:https://ravenscott.show/shop ( SHOP ) Grab coaching sessions and more FREE Gifts on the website http://Ravenscott.show/blog (Ravenscott.show) Madhvi – https://madhvi.ca (Emotion Code FREE Inquiry Call) Music YouTube Library: Til I Let Go by Neffex Mentioned in this episode: Trauma 2 Triumph Summit https://the-thriving-intuitive.captivate.fm/https-bit-ly-3xjlfvb (Trauma 2 Triumph FREE Ticket)
  1. How to Embrace your Queen Energy and Shed the Narcissist's Control with Lady Portia
  2. Emotional Damage and Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse through the Emotion Code
  3. How to Relieve Anxiety from Narcissistic Abuse through your Gut with Camila Smith
  4. Why Empaths Attract Narcissists with Soulmate Coach Jeanne Sullivan Billeci
  5. 16 Self Care Tips for Libra Season – Bonus

Follow Raven on her Socials & YouTube

Listen up empaths. Do you consider yourself to be a highly sensitive person? Do you consider yourself to be drained? When you go out into a social crowd, maybe you, you call yourself an introvert. I’m your host, Raven, Scott. And I just wanted to share with you. I have some tools for you. I have a meditation and I share it with you in the meditation library.

It’s called. The empaths aura protection meditation. I’m going to link it at the end. Just click on over to the video, but I wanted to share with you why I even posted it and put it up. And I’m going to read a little bit from my book in passing the narcissist today on page 57.

How to protect Your empath Energy Meditation

Listen to me! You are a badass!

Listen to me, it says in the exclamation mark. Women young and old, you are a bad ass taken from Jen Sincero’s whole series about badass, no matter what you think you are beautiful, you are unique and powerful. Thank yourself in your body for how spiritual it is and own your own self sovereignty. What does that mean?

The power of your own body. So pertinent, right? We all need to vote against those who are trying to oppress our bodies. It’s just like all of the different states, right? In different countries that we so, um, looking down upon and, um, the Taliban not allowing the woman to read right. Go to school. Do any of those things, right.

I’m sure they also don’t allow them to have abortions that is happening here in the United. You have the [00:02:00] power over your own self sovereignty? No religion. No, man. No Bible can tell you anything. Otherwise every single one of our votes counts. So whoever is trying to oppress your feminine body. We need to vote them out. Side note.

Sorry. It’s so pertinent right now. It’s so pertinent. I had to go there. And any time you feel uncomfortable, if you’re finding yourself in a situation with somebody whom you may really like, but they’re not respecting your body or your soul, and they’re not listening to your boundaries and therefore they’re not respecting you don’t allow them power over you.

So they make you feel guilty with their words or their actions. Or make you feel like you’re worth nothing and you’re a loser. If you don’t want, if you do what they want. Right. It’s such a huge guilt trip woman. We, it now is our time to rise up. We will not take it anymore. Right. There’s already been a hashtag me too movement.

We need to continue further in this movement of not allowing them to victim blame us and Seamus and not listen to us. First of all, that’s not you, their feelings are not your fault, their shame, or their temper tantrum from not getting their way. You are not. They don’t know how to deal with this rejection or not getting a, getting their way.

They’re like giant toddler. So it’s not your fault. Don’t let their words influence your action. They don’t know even how to take no for an answer because maybe their parents always gave them everything they wanted. And so when they don’t get something from someone. I don’t know how to react. Okay.

It’s just their ego. It just immediately attacks the ego immediately attacks [00:04:00] and the ego lives and lurks in their shadows. Nothing good’s ever lurking in the shadows. Right? So when you say, no, you are making a healthy choice for yourself. And honestly, the other party is there. They don’t really need it.

healthy lovers are able to talk and laugh and joke and grow and communicate through the process of being intimate.

You don’t need it. You don’t need their. And healthy lovers are able to talk and laugh and joke and grow and communicate through the process of being intimate. There’s no shame or blame with a healthy, intimate interaction. There’s no disgust. There’s no gusting. There’s usually like, you know, there’s going to be awkward moments when you get intimate.

And when there’s a healthy relationship with two different people, you will know is healthy because you will laugh through the awkward moments when someone. Blaming you and not laughing through awkward moment. That’s not healthy and you don’t need to take it speaking from personal experience. Okay. No matter if it’s actual sex or not even sex, whatever it is, it starts in the little thing.

So I’m just hoping that I’ve made myself clear that you have the power over your own self sovereignty, and you have the power over your. Emotions over your energy over your aura. You know, you want to be considered an introvert and stay inside because it’s easier. That’s fine. I’m totally a hermit. I love it.

I love staying home all day. Some people can’t stand it and that’s a funny, but some of us who were extra sensitive who have open centers and the human design, if you know, like the white different centers, it’s draining to be out into like absorb all of that. Sometimes I need to take a nap after I come in from like a shopping mall or something.

I hate shopping a shopping mall by the way. So, um, this, this empath protection meditation is another motivation. Why [00:06:00] post that in the meditation? So you have to go or you want to go, you can put up your, your aura before a meeting. You can do quick this quick meditation to put up your protection. Or your past aura.

I just want to reinforce that you have the power to rewrite your subconscious. This is on page 58 of my book. You have the power to rewrite your subconscious and transform out of your co-dependent pattern. You will find that once you’ve broken one co-dependent relationship, another will become clear to you.

Speaking from personal experience. I’ve found out most of my relationships actually with my parents were codependent and that’s in my astrology chart. It’s in actually my daughter’s astrology chart. It’s just sometimes in our charts, it’s like, okay, you have this type of energy and it’s not a horrible thing.

It’s just knowing and being aware. Okay, I have codependency here. Like. You know, recognize it branch out and be able to be confident and independent as I get older and become an adult.

I had to learn how to draw healthy boundaries in a loving way to eradicate my codependency and love and take care of my inner child

And I had to learn how to draw healthy boundaries in a loving way to eradicate my codependency and love and take care of my inner child. As I shared with you in a previous job. You can use tools through hypnotherapy, traditional therapy, meditation, and self-love exercises to rewrite your subconscious neural pathway.

if you look in your human design chart, you’re going to have, if you have the open solar Plex, Or if you have an open G center, meaning they’re white or an open spleen, you have more empathic tendencies [00:08:00] and which can lead in a lower frequency people, pleasing tendency.

And the biggest root, unhealthy connections is the people pleasing element. Sorry to have to bring you this hard truth. And if you look in your human design chart, you’re going to have, if you have the open solar Plex, Or if you have an open G center, meaning they’re white or an open spleen, you have more empathic tendencies [00:08:00] and which can lead in a lower frequency people, pleasing tendency.

Okay. Cause you’re trying to just make sure everyone’s calm and happy and like, oh. Stop stop amplifying essentially like stop the madness. Let’s just appease everybody so I can stop amplifying all this energy. It takes a lot of work and consistency, but if you are ready to break free, feeling horrible or dependent or feeling like you just are so sad and always feeling like you’re trying to make sure everyone’s happy by yourself.

Today is the day to regain back yourself sovereignty. Living a life for others and allowing them to drain you of your energy. And self-respect, it gets really exhausting, right? And hand-make can actually physically make you really sick. Start to develop auto-immune disorders. Illnesses will start to show in your body, um, and it drains your energy and it creates dis ease in your body, just an on.

Imbalance. And that’s why I was actually starting to develop an autoimmune disease, celiac disease. I actually started to not be able to eat gluten I’m like it just made me so sick feeling. And then as I actually started not to be able to eat a lot of things. And, um, yeah, I was ignoring my gut during this time when I was in the abusive relationship and developing this auto immune disease, my gut was saying.

Stop going back to the sky. What are you doing? Get out. You don’t belong here, but I was ignoring my first brain. The gut is your first brain, your intuition, your body. And it actually is my human design authority in my sacral.. And there was a lot of stuck energy there. So what is the answer to all of my questions?

First of all, what are my. [00:10:00] I do. I think those treasures within me are or trash. And why? Why do you think, why do you think that your worth is trash?

why did you let all your other healthy relationships go and focus in on this one? And allow yourself to be isolated.

How did you get so lost? These are all the questions that I asked myself. How did this happen? Well, the answer is simple. I truly did not love and embrace myself. So I relied on all of the lies that he fed me. I became somewhat. For love outside of myself.

catastrophic effects of when you do this, you completely lose yourself. You get pulled down deep into a vortex.

Do you see the catastrophic effects of when you do this, you completely lose yourself. You get pulled down deep into a vortex. I was literally being pulled into a deep, dark vortex. I was losing everything. I lost everything already. I was losing my health. I lost my sanity long time ago. Lost my family. I lost my friends.

I just felt like I was losing my soul. And if you’re not loving yourself more than the other persons loving you, then there is something misaligned and unbalanced within yourself. This self love is the opposite of narcissism. Narcissism is created from fear, energies, and insecure. From verbal abuse and overindulgence in a person’s childhood, it’s a mask and a survival mechanism.

The self-love I speak of is so nourishing. You have extra love for others after you’ve loved yourself and your soul deeply. It’s a focus on truly loving yourself deeply and don’t feel guilty for doing. Continue to breathe through the difficult time and hold your inner child and do what he or she asks.

What’s fun. [00:12:00] Is it skateboarding? Is it art? Is it running outside? Is it dancing start doing what makes you feel happy in your inner child? And practice the guided meditations in the meditation playlist to start your healing process today, make sure that if you are loving this and this is empowering, you liked this video, subscribe to my channel to receive more.

I never imagined in a million years that I would be groveling in the sand under the spotlight of the moon in Tahaiti. This was not the romantic trip of my dreams. It was the darkest moment in my life

And I wanted it to end then and there,

this is the devastating consequences of when we’re people pleasing, giving up our love of ourselves and buying into the lies of the abuse and the narcissism

Cause I’m bringing you more.

From page 59. It says I never imagined in a million years that I would be groveling in the sand under the spotlight of the moon in Tahaiti. This was not the romantic trip of my dreams. It was the darkest moment in my life

And I wanted it to end then and there,

this is the devastating consequences of when we’re people pleasing, giving up our love of ourselves and buying into the lies of the abuse and the narcissism just recently a friend shared with me that her friend’s daughter had just recently. Mysteriously died. She had just recently been beat up by her boyfriend, so horribly that she had to go to the hospital.

And she also was so deeply sad and lost that she was relying to numb herself on drugs. So the death right now is unknown. Was it drug overdose or was it head trauma from the abuse when she was just in the hospital either? She didn’t have to end that way. It didn’t have to end that way, but these are the devastating consequences of when we allow others to have power over us and to hurt us.

And we believe their lies and we don’t invest in our own self-love and our own self worth. And our self-empowerment, these are the devastating consequences [00:14:00] that I so much want to eradicate, but we all have to start within ourselves. Has to start in the core center. And as each one of us heals ourselves and powers ourselves, there will be no more room for this type of darkness.

I go check out that meditation playlist and practice those continue to watch more videos and subscribe and hit that notification bell to receive the next empowering and inspirational message from a. Raven Scott here and the Raven Scott show,

you are more powerful and more beautiful than you ever truly know. I’m going to rephrase that you are more powerful and you are more beautiful than your ego will ever let you believe.

This is my message to you. Be careful out there. Be curious, uh, be analytical and remember always keep your unique light shining.

See you in the next video.

And remember, always keep your unique light shining.

Practice Empath Protection on YouTube Chanel

How to master your boundaries:

  • Envision yourself saying NO
  • Feel the power of your self sovereignty
  • Dream of yourself saying NO
  • Step into your courage, pushing through fear, and taking action to say NO.
  • Be detached with the others emotional response (which may be like a child’s temper tantrum)

Raven’s Book

Over the past decade Raven Scott has first, exited an abusive relationship, then found her healing and renewal through the very tools she shares in this book. This “incredibly relatable story is a healing guide that weaves a story of an empath growing up, struggling with codependency, and loving a narcissist. It guides you in transforming yourself from low self esteem, PTSD, emotional abuse, to a strong, confident, and renewed soul.
PLUS! It includes a bonus chapter on the basic overview of Human Design -Your soul’s unique blueprint.
Grab your copy of this book on SALE today! available on Amazon NOW!
Don’t take my word for it. Listen to this 1 of many reviews:
“This guide book is clearly written to serve those committed to healing and honoring their highest nature. this book is A must read on your self discovery journey!” – Abigail Gazda

The link below.

And make sure to grab your Raven Scott Show Swag in the link below. She’s designed some fashionable tote bags, shirts, stickers, and coffee mugs you would be proud to wear around your friends.

What’s missing in your life right now? comment below.
There is one thing I know… is this.

when you are controlled by a narcissist you will never reach your true potential as a beautiful human being. There is hope though! You are here to elevate the collective and evolve in your souls journey. The dark egoistic people are drawn to your empathic light – like a moth to the light.

Raven Scott
What red flags from this show did you recognize today? Let me know in comments below.
Subscribe and hit that bell to continue receiving this series in your feed from the Raven Scott Girl Talk Show.

And share with your friends! Take a Screenshot and add to your stories! Tag me @ravenscottshow on IG so we can connect with you!

instagram.com/ravenscottshow

Know yourself more intimately on an energetic level!

Join us in the Soul Collective Communityhttps://www.patreon.com/soulcollective9

Find your Destiny, Understand your strategy to flow and manifest your goals, Sort out what is your energy and what is others energy, Feel confident, empowered and aligned. Get your Human Design Natal Chart Analysis Today!

Upon purchase you will receive a PDF reference book to introduce you to Human Design System.

You then will receive an audio file and transcript in with graphics to communicate to you your life’s strategy, authority, theme, and destiny.

Then when you have digested you will schedule a zoom call with me. So you can ask any questions and receive further mentorship.

I also share with you how you are designed to move through this life and your incarnation cross (life’s theme and purpose) and life patterns, what you are here to learn and here to do. I will share with you how you may need to live according to your strategy, what that is for you, and how you are to use your authority to make decisions in life.

All those who’ve I’ve help with this have told me what freedom they have now that they know their design and strategy.

“I salute the Divinity in you.”

– Indian brotherhood
Raven Scott

Raven Scott is providing women, who are feeling lost and alone in their journey, a community to kick ass as we become empowered together while healing from childhood trauma, abusive relationships, or plain old life, and awaken to rewrite our karmic story. Through astrology, self care, human design, & intuition.
We are energetically clearing ancestral patterns one step at a time to find our power and potential through healing so you can live empowered the unique loved individual you desire to be. Topics covered: Self development, Human design, Astrology, tarot, meditative thoughts, intuitive message from spirit, and expert guests sharing different spiritual healing modalities.
Your host and Patreon Community mentor, Raven Scott, is a narcissitic abuse survivor, author of Empath and The Narcissist: A Healing Guide for People Pleasers. And also is a Certified Meditation Teacher. Join us on http://Patreon.com/soulcollective9

Subscribe to get updates in your inbox

Processing…
Success! You're on the list.

Published by Raven Scott

As an international author, narcissist abuse recovering coach, Podcast host of Empath & Narcissist and creator of healing workshops. She is dispelling the narcissists' power one soul at a time.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: