Stop the negative patterns that cause you pain, heartache, and low self esteem. Rewire your subconscious mind and gain freedom from the emotional abuse.
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How to Rewire you Mirror Neurons and Gain Emotional Freedom
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95% of your mind is capable to change
[00:01:59] [00:02:00] Today, I am sharing with you how to rewire your subconscious patterns and to gain emotional freedom. And to stop the patterns that keep causing you pain and heartache. And to contribute to your low self-esteem. We’re going to talk about how to rewire your subconscious mind and to gain that freedom over the narcissist and emotional abuse.
[00:02:29] Now you can, you can change your brain with repetition. And as it has been proven that 95% of our minds, thoughts and activities are subconscious and the subconscious is what runs on autopilot. What is happening. Out of our. Ability to really focus in. And I think this could maybe seem a little bit.
[00:02:58] I have a bummer, [00:03:00] right? Like, Ugh. I have. Only 5% control over my brain, but I actually view it. As 95% opportunity for rewiring. Because you can change your brain. You can change your subconscious wiring from what it is now. Maybe that you’ve picked up from conditioning. And through your mirror neurons with your family, your upbringing, society, school, culture.
[00:03:28] And you have the power to change that. Through these virtues and steps I’m going to share with you and through repetition. I’m first going to go over a mirror neuron. And the definition. This is something again, I’ve touched on in a few podcasts ago, mentioning that I’m going to talk about this topic in depth.
[00:03:48] With Michael on the podcast, think unbroken. Which I’ll be talking to him in may and then it will air more likely in June. So I’m going to give you a bit of a taste [00:04:00] here on my podcasts, because I can, and I love you. So I’m a mirror. Neuron is a neuron that fires both when a human acts. And when the human observes at the same action is performed by another.
Mirror Neurons
[00:04:16] So thus the neuron in the brain mirrors the behavior of the other. As through the observer where itself acting. As though the observer were itself acting. So such neurons have been directly observed in us humans and primate species, as well as in birds. And that’s referenced from Wikipedia. Now. Humans have what are called mirror neurons and nearly every part of the brain.
[00:04:46] The premotor cortex, the supplementary motor area, the primary somatosensory cortex and the inferior Peria Tel. Periodontal peri Edel peri ETL [00:05:00] cortex. Mirror neurons caused people to imitate the behaviors they see in others. This is how we know how to act in our clan in our village, in our culture.
[00:05:11] And these things are positive. But if there are negative actions that you’re observing as you’re developing. You will mirror those negative actions, negative patterns. And you will pick them up in your subconscious. So the tools to wake up your subconscious. To your unique soul, to who you want to be.
[00:05:36] These tools are here for you not to settle. They’re here for you to accept nothing less than amazing for yourself, because you are worth that. You are worth. The dream. Relationship that you are dreaming of, you are worth. Not. Being shamed, you are worth so much more than being blamed for [00:06:00] other people’s actions.
[00:06:01] You’re worth way more than being scolded and talked down to on how you’ve made an error. You were certainly worth much more and a far more than gold. To be hit.
[00:06:15] It’s unacceptable.
[00:06:18] So the first tool that I’m going to give you here is to know your human design blueprint. And become intimate with your strategy and authority. I just posted yesterday, a full podcast episode on all the different types, not self theme. And what that really means is your subconscious wiring, or is exactly what I’m talking about here is just a fancy word in human design called you’re not cell theme.
[00:06:45] And it isn’t yourself because it’s something conditioned that you’ve observed. And you’ve mimicked from your culture, from your society, from your parents.
[00:06:54] And so it’s important to know intimately what type you are. If you don’t know what type you are, you [00:07:00] can DM me and ask me where to find it, or I can pull your chart for you. I do do private human design readings. If you just want to know your type, you can get your free human design chart@geneticmatrix.com.
[00:07:14] Jovian archive.com. My body graph.com. Those are three resources. You just need to plug in your birth date, your birth time location. Uh, to get an accurate. Um, chart reading, which similar to astrology. So once, you know, your, your. Your type, you can then establish and know what your strategy is.
[00:07:35] I’ll just briefly cover those here, but you can listen to the full episode that I released yesterday. So first, if you’re a manifestor your strategy is to inform. You probably felt, uh, held back. You were conditioned to be quiet and to stop venturing out into dangerous. You know, activities and things.
Brief Human Design Strategy Recap
[00:07:56] That is who you are. You’re here to envision. You’re here to inspire. [00:08:00] And you, you just need to inform, so you don’t hit those roadblocks. Um, if you are a generator, your strategy is to wait to respond. If you’re a manifesting generator, your strategy is to wait to respond as well as inform. In form of what you’re interested in doing.
[00:08:20] Let people know, just say it out loud and then follow the breadcrumbs. Do what you love. I keep busy because you are a busy, busy person, just like the generator, same advice for you. Do what you love. Follow the breadcrumbs and wait. To respond to the opportunities that come your way. In what you’re doing and what you love when you do what you love and your passions and what lights you up.
[00:08:46] The universe will bring you those opportunities to respond to. Don’t you worry.
[00:08:52] If you’re a projector, your strategy is to wait. Uh, or the invitation. No, one’s going to hear [00:09:00] you. You’re going to hit a lot of blocks. You’re going to be very frustrated and you’re going to be trying to. Um, be so focused on others because you have the wisdom for others, but you need to wait and just be, be your beautiful shining light self. Do what lights you up.
[00:09:18] Be who you love to be. Don’t settle. And you will receive multiple invitations for you to share your wisdom with others. Now if you’re a reflector, your strategy is to wait the entire lunar cycle. It’s a 28 day cycle. And really what you need to do is find your quiet time in that 28 day cycle of. What you are seeing what you’re observing, what you are feeling about things.
[00:09:49] And being that wise guide for the whole community. And sharing with them. Okay. This is what I’ve been observing the last month. This is what needs to be. [00:10:00] This is what’s healthy. This is what’s not healthy. You you are that hub and people will be drawn to you for that wisdom as well. Um, but you need to just.
[00:10:11] Be present and. You need to wait and observe and really tap into the moon magic. You are a lunar body. So doing all your moon rituals and things. So, and that’s just human design. That’s not even rewiring, right? Your subconscious. Now we get into the good stuff of. Observe your patterns. Um, typically you’ll you, when you’re frustrated.
1. Stop and observe negative feeling
[00:10:36] Observe your negative emotions. Stop. Observe. Are you guilty? Are you feeling guilty for being mad and blowing up at somebody? Are you. Um, Frustrated. Are you angry? Are you bitter? Are you resentful? Take a moment and go I’m feeling. Resentful right now. Y. Ask the right questions, [00:11:00] whereas stemming from.
[00:11:02] When have I felt this the first time, go back to your childhood. And then observe that you’re pushing, right. You’re pushing too hard. And you’re not living according to your weight to respond or wait for the invitation strategy. And. Observe that and. Release and surrender that to the universe. And then you say, okay, observe this pattern.
2. Envision your ideal self
[00:11:27] Moving forward. Now envision step number two, is it envision your ideal being your ideal? How reaction with that particular person or in that scenario? Let’s say you don’t want to yell anymore. Okay. So I envisioned myself. Not yelling. I envisioned myself calmly using language that I can. Express to the other person, how, how they behaved was inappropriate.
[00:11:54] Or you may have an open solar plexus, and that’s where the yelling is coming from. I observed [00:12:00] that when someone else gets very upset around me, I magnify it and I start to yell and I am the one who’s causing the problem. It’s not your emotion, but you are the one amplifying the emotion. So learn. And observe. Okay. Now, ideally I envisioned myself being calm.
[00:12:19] Cool and collected. In that scenario and not amplifying and expressing that emotion.
[00:12:28] Um, another thing that I also envision I gave myself a mantra for was I am safe. Because I’m using example of yelling. Cause that’s really my big thing that I wanted to rewrite. There’s a lot of things I’ve rewritten, but that was the big thing. I felt so guilty about yelling at my children and my husband.
[00:12:47] So, um, I visualize myself being a safe place. And a person yelling is not a safe place. So I continually meditated. If you did visual meditations every day to see myself as a safe [00:13:00] place. I journaled about how. I was a safe place. I journaled out all of my negative emotions and I burned it. That was in last Sunday’s episode, around the, um, the talk about the energy and the journaling, um, of how to, again, dissolve negative emotions.
[00:13:18] So I journaled and I burned a lot, every single full moon for a full year and I still do it. I still do it when I have negative emotions that come up and I do it around the full moon. Journal and release it. Don’t settle for just, oh, this is how I am. Right. You can rewire your subconscious and you can rewire the things that make you feel guilty and the negative patterns and number three.
3. Find new habits to practice
[00:13:44] Is to find some new habits. And commit to those new habits. So again, if that’s journaling and burning around the full moon, that’s a new habit you need to commit to doing. Spiritual practices. Finding things. That [00:14:00] give you affirmations and wisdom. And some virtues to help you daily make the right choices. So for me again,
[00:14:11] I grew up in a Christian home. And I think Christianity is beautiful. If it is balanced, equal. And for me, maybe it was a little bit of my personality and their personality and how I was raised. It was extreme. But if you love the Bible, you love Christianity and it’s balanced and it’s not being judgemental, forcing it upon others. Go for it.
[00:14:33] For me. I love Buddhism. I love the Buddha. And not hon. I love stoicism. Um, it’s very balanced and practical. And full of great wisdom. That is very similar in parallel to what Jesus says in the Bible. So you find your spiritual practice and go to that, you know, find a book you love, read it every day, read the quotes from the new Testament or [00:15:00] read the quotes from tick, not Han or Buddha.
[00:15:03] Read the quotes from, Epicurious or , And this stoic world. There’s Marcus Aurelius.
“I will keep constant watch over myself. And the most usefully. Will put each day up for review. For this is what makes us evil. That none of us looks back upon our lives. We reflect upon only that, which we are about to do. And yet our plans for the future descend from the past.”
Seneca is Moral letters. 83.2
[00:15:10] Epictetus they all have these meditations. , Seneca. From, The ancient times and these letters. So I’m just going to read to you one, for instance, if you’re not familiar with stoicism.
“I will keep constant watch over myself. And the most usefully. Will put each day up for review. For this is what makes us evil. That none of us looks back upon our lives. We reflect upon only that, which we are about to do. And yet our plans for the future descend from the past.”
[00:15:50] That’s from Seneca is Moral letters. 83.2. I think that’s really key for what we’re talking about is. Observe. Evaluate. [00:16:00] And see what you’re doing from the past that is writing your future. , another one is daily journal. Waking up every morning is a great virtue to kind of just write out what sources inspiring you to feel, to think about, to meditate on it, to do.
I’m working on a daily. Book right now to give you empowerment and time to reflect daily. Very excited about this project. I will keep you abreast
[00:16:19] And I’m working on a daily. Book right now to give you empowerment and time to reflect daily. Very excited about this project. I will keep you abreast about it. walk and exercise daily. It’s important to do these things walking again, if, especially if you’re experiencing stress, anxiety, or PTSD from recovering.
[00:16:40] From your narcissist abuse or you’re in it. And you’re just feeling so overwhelmed by the trap that you’re in. Walking is scientifically proven. Method to calm and dissolve the PTSD or the anxiety it’s that left right movement of your body [00:17:00] and your brain. And the walking is rhythmic and you start to breathe deeply.
[00:17:05] You know is a walking meditation. You’re breathing deeply. And breathing out and all of that is calming your nervous system. So I do a daily walk every day. I love it gets me out into the trees and gets me. Clear and motivated and ready to produce the show for you guys. Um, another one is you can read books that help you.
[00:17:25] Um, I’ve read numerous books. Um, I love Danielle LaPorte. I love Jen Sincero. I love Ryan Holiday. I love Jocko Willink. So many. Amazing books out there. You could even grab my book Empath and the narcissist, a healing guide for people pleasers on Amazon. So many beautiful books. Listen to a podcast you’re already listening to it. So you got it. So continue to do that because the words are powerful.
[00:17:52] I also listened to a lot of audio books. When you hear the word spoken and you absorb them, it’s a daily practice [00:18:00] of absorbing the empowerment and it’s strengthening your brain and it’s rewiring your thoughts when your thoughts become things and your thoughts are rewiring your subconscious. And then number four.
4. Practice them Daily with Discipline
[00:18:14] Is to practice them daily. Implement discipline into your life, especially if you have an open wheel center as I do. You have discipline, you can’t make the excuse that I haven’t opened mail center. So therefore I don’t have enough will or willpower to commit to something. If it’s really important to you, you will. And if you commit.
[00:18:36] To having maybe an accountability partner like myself. Listening to this podcast every day and say, okay, if I listen to the podcast, I’m going to take a walk. Um, I’m going to grab my journal. Like, just start with three things. Or start with two. Um, and do it daily and just.
[00:18:54] Amplify. The energy from what I’m giving out from what the book is [00:19:00] giving out. From people around you ask a friend, Hey, ask me everyday. How have I gone on my walk? Have I journaled today. Make a calendar, check it off. You have the will with in you, it’s just a little bit inconsistent. So you have to hold yourself.
[00:19:18] And create a system of accountability so that you can implement the discipline and all it takes is just a firm. Intention to do so. And another book. that I absolutely love. I’m going to read to you from about discipline. Is the discipline equals freedom. It’s field manual by Jocko Willink. And that’s w I L L I N K Wilson.
[00:19:46] The person you can control.
[00:19:48] All right. I’m going to start from, I’m gonna read both pages 10 and 11. Cause I love it. “People are not who you want them to be. Kill your idols. Essentially it knocked down the pedestal so much. Sure. There are things that we can learn from people, but people aren’t going to be what you think they are.
[00:20:06] And what they should be. People, even those people you have put up on a pedestal are going to be faulted, weak egomaniacal. Condescending. They are going to be lazy, entitled shortsighted. They will not be perfect. Far from it. And that’s fine. Learn from their weaknesses. Of course. Learn from their strengths and mimic.
Because you can’t control other people. You can’t make them what you want them to be. You can’t make them who you want them to be. The only person you can control is you.
Jock willink
[00:20:30] And copy them and what they do well. Again, rewriting the mirror neurons. Be equally as important, learn from their faults. I see what not to do. Because you can’t control other people. You can’t make them what you want them to be. You can’t make them who you want them to be. The only person you can control is you.
[00:20:54] So focus on making yourself who you want to be. Faster. [00:21:00] Stronger. Smarter. More humble. Less ego. Discipline your body. Free your mind. Get up early. And go for that walk. Get after it and you will become the person you want to be. And you become that person through one. Small decision. At a. Time.”
[00:21:25] That isn’t my leave you with today. Powerful tools to rewire your subconscious and your mirror neurons to be the person. That you dream to be, and that person you dream to be is your higher self, your truest self. Here. To be. A light in the world. Because you are empathic, you are a light. And you were here to help.
[00:21:52] Others see how to be compassionate. You’re here to heal other people. And no, you cannot [00:22:00] heal those who don’t want to change. All right. So leave you with that.
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