How To Gain Self Worth After Emotional Abuse with Daily Affirmations with BONUS Ho’ o Pono Pono Prayer Song | S3 Ep 20

How Do You GAIN Self Worth? Practice THIS to Fix Self Esteem  

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“It’s okay to take compliments. And I, firstly, firsthand can completely relate it’s hard at first. “

-Raven Scott
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"Both of you are in the quicksand and you wanna rescue them, but you can't. You have to rescue yourself before you can rescue them. Quicksands gonna pull you down." – Tami Kiekhaefer LCSWWhether you are an expert in relationships as our guest today, or not, repetition of bad cycles can be maddening. Today, you'll learn four possible reasons why empaths continually attract the same narcissistic energy into their relationships.Access all links hereOur guest today, Tami Kiekhaefer, LCSW has operated a successful psychotherapy practice since 2002. She provides individual, family and couples therapy around anxiety, depression, domestic violence, trauma, relationships, and empowerment.Here are some key moments: Childhood conditioning / People Pleasing patterns You are not alone "All you need is one hand to pull you out of the quicksand" – Raven Scott 2. Toxic positivity 3. Lack of Self-Awareness and Emotional Intelligence."Both of you are in the quicksand and you wanna rescue them, but you can't. You have to rescue yourself before you can rescue them. The quicksands gonna pull you down. And pull both of you down. " – Tami K LCSW [28:23] 4. Unresolved Trauma from Past Like energy attracts like energy Her book: Preparing for the Jungle, avoiding Snakes and Pitfalls on the Path to Healthy Love. "Music YouTube Library: Believe by NeffexMentioned in this episode:Trauma 2 Triumph SummitTrauma 2 Triumph FREE Ticket
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  2. 3 Emotional Reasons It's Difficult to Let Go of a Narcissist as an Empath | Bonus Conversation
  3. Astrology & Somatic Healing from Trauma and Pain from Narcissistic Abuse
  4. How to Re Align Your Heart Chakra After Narcissistic Abuse
  5. 5 Powerful Techniques for Increasing Your Vibration to repel the narcissist

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Self Worth Mirror Work

[00:00:00] RavenScott: Do you find it difficult to take compliments? To really truly believe when someone says, oh, you look beautiful or, well, you are just so amazing. But inside you say, no, I’m not, I’m not beautiful. You might even tell them back. No, you know, you dismissed the compliment. And you catch yourself when you should be saying simply “thank you.”

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[00:00:25] RavenScott: It’s okay to take compliments. And I, firstly, firsthand can completely relate all growing up. My dad would always say, oh, you’re so beautiful. And I would tell him, well, you’re my dad. You’re supposed to say that I’m really not. I was always comparing myself to the more exotic looking girls in my school.

[00:00:59] You know, [00:01:00] seeing the evidence that boys were not really attracted to me or didn’t ask me out or whatever things. And honestly, I had some real self-esteem issues because of a bully who, who really attacked my image. So today’s practice this weekend, we’re going to slow down and do some mirror work together, and then I’ll guide you into a

[00:01:21] cleansing Ho’ o pono pono prayer.

[00:01:24] RavenScott: So make sure you have a pad of paper and a pencil, and we’re going to start writing out some things that we can. Say to ourselves and practice in the mirror. And you do this daily and I’ll talk you through it. So here we go into our mirror work .

[00:01:42] [00:02:00] So in this book, the Empath and The Narcissist, but I’ve written on page ninety five, we go into some mirror work, because like I said. The thing that narcissists will do is attack your mind and attack your self-worth. And if you’re already starting out with, sandy foundation of self-worth, then yeah, they’re going to grab a hold of you and have control of your mind and your being.

[00:02:29] And this is why mirror work is extremely important because you need to, within yourself, know, you are beautiful, you are valued, you are worthy of your dreams. And whatever they’re saying to you is just BS. But if we don’t get that foundation within ourselves, we won’t be able to stand up in our mind to know that they’re throwing false accusations and false smoke and mirrors at us.

[00:02:58] Okay. So this is really [00:03:00] simple. And this is what helped me on my path to recovery with all of the other narcissists in my life too. It’s not like I left my ex and there were no more. They’re surrounding you. They’re surrounding us. And this is something that we need to eradicate, but we can’t do it until we work on ourselves.

[00:03:19] So from the book on page 95, get your pen and paper. We’re going to write down some compliments and affirmations of ourselves that. You’re then going to practice and repeat in the mirror. And you’re going to do this daily. I would say 28 days, great place to start. And if it needs to be longer until you really are convinced you believe this affirmation and it’s going to be something simple, you might think that it’s very vain.

[00:03:46] Uh, I’ll give you an example for me, my whole life. I despised the shape of my nose. Like it was to the point where I’m like, I’m gonna make so much money. How many of the nose job. Okay. That’s not going to solve your [00:04:00] self worth problems because now you’re like, oh, what if the doctor messes up your nose?

[00:04:04] What if it looks this? What if it looks that where, I mean, it doesn’t matter what we look like. But honestly you are shaped uniquely exactly how you’re supposed to. So therefore I wrote down on my piece of paper, I love my nose. Simple. I love my nose. I love my nose.. I love my nose. And I did it enough to now when I see myself inside profiles, instead of my first reaction was, “oh my God, horrible, huge triangular nose.”

[00:04:35] Right. It’s very triangular now. I see it. And I go, Hey, that’s a pretty nice profile there. Look at that beautiful person. It’s a very strong profile. I also see, and I recognize because I’ve learned it in my human design about myself. I have, a lot of leadership aspects. And if you look back in history, you know, all the profiles of different people on the coins, like they all have that very strong profile.

[00:04:59] [00:05:00] So I embrace it. Accept it. Okay. This is it. This is beautiful. This is how I’m designed. This is who I am. All right. So we’re going to tell yourself compliments in the mirror. It’s going to feel uncomfortable . Okay. So let’s say, write down that you’re beautiful.

[00:05:18] Maybe you don’t believe you’re beautiful and this narcissist has convinced you that you’re not in, you’re lucky to be with him or her because you know, you’re not handsome enough. You’re not beautiful enough. Like you’re just lucky to be with me because I love you. No one else will love you. That’s the trick that they play on your mind.

[00:05:36] So you write down, I am beautiful. Write that down on your paper, you could have this paper and you’re going to keep it with you.

[00:05:46] Put this paper on your mirror, put it in a drawer. Keep it somewhere safe. Wherever you can pull it out daily to practice.

[00:05:53] And the next you’re going to write down. I have a purpose. I have a [00:06:00] purpose

[00:06:03] next. You’re going to write, I am unique. More specifically, write down. I am a one of a kind,

[00:06:15] I am one of a kind and you’re going to write down. I am loved and valued by all who connect with me. That’s huge. I need you to uppercase all. I am loved and valued by all capital, A L L who connect with me, not just the person who’s convinced you. He’s the only, or she’s the only person who loves you all.

[00:06:47] ALL! all who are connected to you. , and I want you to say these, maybe pick two, if there’s just too difficult or overwhelming, pick one, one at a time and say them daily every [00:07:00] day, start with 28 days. If you’re not fully convinced continue on for another 28 days. yeah, it’s going to be difficult efforts. I’m just looking at my notes from the book here.

[00:07:09] It’s going to be difficult at first practice, visual meditation and the meditations here in this playlist. Remove yourself from your body and realize you are beautiful, remove your ego from your attached brain and saying, I’m not worthy. I’m ugly. Who’s going to love me. That’s only the lies that the narcissist has fed you.

[00:07:34] And sometimes even it’s yourself that’s fed you that, because like I said, in my past, I saw this, I compared to this, I’m comparing to all these people in social media. And filters people filters are real. So social media therefore is fake. Whatever you’re seeing is just one snippet snapshot. Okay.

[00:07:53] So don’t compare your entire psyche to someone’s gorgeous picture. It’s not real.[00:08:00] This is what I had to do to realize that I truly was worth all that I desired. Like, I just felt like I, once I left and I even felt like I wasn’t worthy of this beautiful, gorgeous, love that the universe brought me.

[00:08:14] I wasn’t worthy of, you know, money or being able to even write my book. I didn’t think I was worthy of any of that. So these were actual practices. I personally have done myself. Like I said, with my nose, with everything, my appearance I’m worthy and beauty for my flaws, beauty shining my light inside and out.

[00:08:34] And knowing that I have beautiful radiant energy, we all do that shines out. That’s why I always say always keep your unique light shining at the end of the podcast and videos. So there’s your affirmation segment, I hope that you. Take to heart, these practices and that you practice it every day. It truly will be impactful and transformational in your mind,

[00:08:58] and your self-worth. [00:09:00] Thank you so much for watching. Make sure to subscribe, leave a comment. And the like down below. I really truly am here for you. Ask me any questions. You are beautiful. My highest self, sees your highest self. Namaste.

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Ho’ o Pono Pono Poem and Song by Raven

We truly want every single soul to know that they are supported and empowered in their soul’s journey. You are unique and are here for a particular purpose …
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How to master your boundaries:

  • Envision yourself saying NO
  • Feel the power of your self sovereignty
  • Dream of yourself saying NO
  • Step into your courage, pushing through fear, and taking action to say NO.
  • Be detached with the others emotional response (which may be like a child’s temper tantrum)

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Over the past decade Raven Scott has first, exited an abusive relationship, then found her healing and renewal through the very tools she shares in this book. This “incredibly relatable story is a healing guide that weaves a story of an empath growing up, struggling with codependency, and loving a narcissist. It guides you in transforming yourself from low self esteem, PTSD, emotional abuse, to a strong, confident, and renewed soul.
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🌈Raven Scott Author and YouTuber/Podcaster, and Jessica Schiller Silverman have joined together to create a beautiful community for you to grow and be spiritually supported and together join and lean into our self care and self empowerment.

This collective membership on Patreon aligned so divinely in flow! 

  • We draw tarot cards and share intuition + wisdom you need to hear in that moment. 
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  • We join together and share what’s on our hearts and teach wisdom for your heart’s nourishment during these trying times. 
  • We host live Q&A on anything spiritual, tarot, human design, or moonbeam related. 

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Raven Scott

Raven Scott is providing women, who are feeling lost and alone in their journey, a community to kick ass as we become empowered together while healing from childhood trauma, abusive relationships, or plain old life, and awaken to rewrite our karmic story. Through astrology, self care, human design, & intuition.
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